Things seem a little calm now. The dejected feeling has subsided a little. But then again, there is a lingering thought, “Should I Call My Ex?” On the surface, the idea seems fine, but think of it like an onion. You peel one layer, and there is a smellier one underneath. This article is meant to be a wake-up call so that you do not become stupid and call your ex.
The Break Up
Breakups are not at all easy things to deal with. We all had at least one such breakup where our world felt like it came crumbling down. It takes time and energy to move on from such a situation.
But just as you are picking up the pieces of your broken heart, you come across your ex in a coffee shop or glance over their posts on social media. And in that brief moment, you have this loud voice in your head screaming, “Maybe I Should call my ex.” If you find yourself in the same exact situation, this article is for you.
Do not think of this as a random article on the internet, but rather an open letter to every person who is going through a breakup or is facing tumultuous situations where you are unsure about calling your ex. We will remind you why you do not need him or her back in your life and why you should honor the no-contact rule by not calling them. Ever.
Reasons Not To Contact Your Ex
Now that we have established what this article is meant to be. It is time that we acknowledge that the hurt and indecision you are facing is something I can relate to personally. Being somebody who went through a bad breakup recently, I know what you feel. The hurt you are feeling is real, and the only person you need right now is you yourself.
The sadness that you feel is real, but they do not have to know about it. I mean, if they did care about you, you would not have been on the internet asking for advice from an absolute stranger. Keeping that in mind, let’s see some of the reasons why you must honor the no-contact rules.
You WILL Regret It
Breakups are never meant to be easy. Think of a relationship like a house of cards which is.
carefully built by two people. It is beautiful, but it is fragile as well. Therefore, when something that took time and effort to build breaks, the feelings of dejection, sadness, and anger are quick to take over. Remember those same feelings, and do not call the person who made you feel those emotions. You can give in to the momentary wantings, but let me assure you that the conversation would not go as you have made it up in your head. Chances are that you will end up feeling worse and regret calling altogether.
You Don’t Need Them As ‘Friends.’
It is a topic idea that two lovers can remain great friends after their breakup. I mean, there are people who make this impossible feat possible, but the chances of you falling below that percentage are definitely low. In fact, if you guys have gone through the breakup just a few days or months back, it is only advisable that you do not remain friends and refrain from calling her or him. It would only make matters complicated.
Embarrassment
Let us, for a second, assume that you did make that call. You have been thinking about it for a while, and you finally mustered up the courage to make that call. What comes next? What are you guys will be talking about? Weather? What are the basic happenings of life? Football? What? The more you think about it, the more you realize that there is nothing that you guys can talk about apart from the breakup or reminisce about the old days. Also, what if that person is not into the concept of talking to you and does not reciprocate? At this point, you are just setting yourself up for failure.
It Can Give Way To Emotional Trauma
If I am so audacious, you are not feeling the best about yourself right now. There is already a lot of emotional baggage that you are currently dealing with. There is no knowing what you might be feeling next. You could either eat the whole bag of nachos, binge-watch a sitcom, or call your ex. If you want to take my word for it, just stay away from the last one. Before calling your ex, ask yourself, “What can he/she add to my life right now?” If you do not have a positive answer, that is an answer in itself. Subsequently, this call would also hamper the healing process. Therefore, it is only advisable that you refrain from making that call.
You Deserve To Move On And Find Someone Better
Not that you need somebody to be happy in your own life. But trust us, the time that you will be investing on a call that will make you feel like shit will serve better if you talk to people on Tinder or Grindr. At least, that conversation might lead to something interesting, unlike the call.
The Final Thought
And with that, we have reached the end of our article listing a few of the reasons why you should not call your ex. You spent years trying to reach out to that person. What happened? The only thing that your ex gave was trauma and heartache. So, a measly late-night call will certainly not change anything. Rather, it would make you seem desperate and lonely. So take my word for it, and do not call your ex. They do not deserve you.